In
marriage, most women feel they are not being given the chance to voice out
their mind nor have their way. As a
result of this, they got bottled up with one problem or the other. And once an
opportunity opens up to speak up, they hardly let go of their stance. In some
extreme cases it has led to a couple of divorce. It is a fact that reaching a
compromise in a marriage is one hurdle that most married women face, and it has
become a threat to the stability of the marriage and home front.
Obviously,
married life requires lots and lots of compromise if it is to work, hence
challenges in marriage is inevitable. Their must be compromises in a marriage
even if it means learning it from the very moment we get married or after some
years of heated debate. Compromise is something we all eventually have to
discover as one of the pillars of marriage. True compromise in marriage is one
done without nagging, succeeding it all day; but compromise should come without
resentment.
Compromise
involves two parties where one gives up something he/she values for the benefit
of the marriage. Nowadays, you find out that compromise is being neglected
especially by the women because they feel if they compromise, they are giving
up their right and this starts to be the beginning of crisis in the home. Compromise
is not the easiest thing in the world to do. For those who are married- well,
compromise sound pretty on paper or in spoken, but it is one thing that you
must be willing to adopt and make use of in your life for things to go on
smoothly.
How
do we achieve compromise without resentment? First and foremost, we should understand
that agreeing to differ is sometime an option, which simply means each party
holding up to his understanding. But if you both agree to that, don’t hang onto
any anger or bitterness for each other. The second thing to remember is that
your spouse should come before other relationships. We have had a million times
and more that marriage is about give and take. The two people must work
together. There is a saying that goes thus- ‘there can never be two captains in
a ship’. So is it in a marriage, it is not always possible for both persons to
have their way. Therefore, sometimes one person gives and the other takes, and most
important the woman must be willing to do most of the giving, especially in
terms of decision making. Of course this
works better if both people get to experience both the giving and the taking.
People
often talk of a successful marriage being a successful partnership based on a
healthy mutual give and take. When you try to reach a compromise in your
marriage then, you both will be giving your marriage all of the commitment and
effort it deserves. While giving in to compromise is important, you should be
willing to sacrifice completely sometimes as well, for the sake of the peace of
your marriage. It is important to realize that without compromise, arguments
can flare up easily and feelings of bitterness will begin to prop up. You must
understand that compromise in your marriage is when you move from competition to
cooperation in an argument. It is about finding a common ground where both of
you are willing to agree on a particular situation, or issue and forge ahead in
life. You will need to learn to compromise on many things because there are
times when we must give in to the opinion of others for the benefit of the
relationship and the general peace of everyone involved.
